Being a Teen’s Mom is a Thankless Job

Hello my friends. How have you been? I hope life has been treating you well. If not, I hope you are enduring your trials well. A lot of times, that’s the tough part.

Life has been interesting for me. I know I mentioned in a previous post last year about me going off my ADD medicine. This has made life quite challenging. As a matter of fact, turns out quitting cold turkey is not the best way to do it. I gained weight which put me into a depression…I don’t usually need help in that department. It happens naturally. So, since last May I have found it challenging just to do every day tasks. It sucks. Thus me not blogging as much. Or doing much of anything extracurricular. I began a different medication in December that is not a stimulant. It helps to some extent, but it’s still not the same. I exercise, including running my 5th half marathon ever on New Years Day. I honestly can’t imagine how I would be doing without exercise.

I haven’t mentioned on here about my oldest Daughter serving a full time mission for our church. She’s been gone a year now. I have missed her greatly despite how proud and happy I am for her choice to serve. With her gone I am here in the home with my 2 youngest kids. My middle child, my Son, is finishing up his Junior year in high school, while my youngest Daughter is finishing her seventh grade year.  Life is certainly demanding with teenagers in the home. Not only that, the world revolves around them, their rooms are constantly a nightmare. It’s definitely a thankless job being a full time family manager. To be quite blunt, I’m tired of it.

I got in a lot of trouble last night with my Son. I was getting ready for bed and next thing I know I see the angry face emoticon on my phone screen from him. I go into the living room, where he is, and ask him why he sent that. Come to find out, his friend, who is a girl, began sending him photos of him she found on my Instagram feed. “Why did you follow her? I can’t believe you did that!” he says in a loud voice.  First of all, I hardly have very many photos of him period. He doesn’t like for me to take his picture. Yet, as a mom, I don’t want him to look back at my photos and see only photos of his sisters and think I didn’t love him.  Anyway, so he began to critique his younger self and say how awful he looked and he can’t believe I haven’t deleted those photos. Oh my goodness, I can’t win for losing. For real! I mentioned one day to my son about something he wrote on his twitter account and now he has blocked me.

I pretty much do everything wrong according to my teenagers and to them I know absolutely nothing. It’s a little difficult being surrounded by people like this all the time. I have set aside half my life to raise my children, to be there for them. And now, they don’t want to have anything to do with me. It’s a little heart wrenching to say the least.

I’m at a crossroads in my life. I’m about to start a new season. I’ve decided to go back to college. It’s time to upgrade my associates degree to a bachelors degree. I need and want to be around like minded people. It’s time to have a career outside the home. I’ve been blessed to not have to work while my kids were young (although I’ve doubted that on many days.) I remember my own childhood and would have liked to have had my mom or dad around more. Yet, they did what they had to do to raise our family. But because of that, and because my husband’s salary provided enough for me to stay home, I chose to do that. I have always had the best interest of my kids in mind. Doesn’t every parent want more for their children than what they had?

I’ve been juggling in my mind what I would like to do. I know I want a trade or a career. The majority of the jobs I’ve held over my lifetime have been in sales of some kind. I’m tired of that. I want to do something creative. I got online and decided to do this career assessment to see what insight it might provide. My youngest saw me doing the assessment and asked why I was doing it. Once I told her I was going to go back to college and start a career outside the home, she flipped out. My 12 year old who is a full on teenager already was really upset. She thinks this means I will no longer be her mom. Oh my goodness…sigh…again I can’t win for losing.

We shall see what will happen. I’ll keep you posted.

Until next time,

Helpful Ways to Encourage Fitness

I’m running again!

It’s a good thing, because I can’t fit into any of my clothes. I can’t stand going shopping for new clothes if I have to go up a couple of sizes. Boo!  I don’t care how cute the outfit is, if I have bigger hips or thighs or whatever…it doesn’t look good on me.

Weight gain doesn’t usually make for the best of running circumstances. It’s harder to run pulling that extra weight along. But, I have some helpful strategies I’m using I thought I would share.

  1. Run when it’s cooler.  You might be thinking duh! Well, it makes a huge difference. It was in the 60’s this morning and it felt heavenly! The hotter it is, the more difficult the run…at least for me.
  2. MUSIC! I’m going to share a few of my Pandora stations I’ve been listening to lately that carry me through: Alternative Endurance Training Radio, Dance Cardio Radio & Summer Hits 2015 Road Trip Radio.
  3. NingXia Nitro fbj44 familybringsjoy.comYoung Living’s NingXia Nitro! This dietary supplement has become a staple in my home. Nitro contains naturally occurring caffeine and Bioenergy’s D-Ribose to support athletic performance and endurance. Bioenergy Ribose supports physical performance, recovery and increases overall energy reserves. (These statements have not been evaluated by the Food & Drug Administration. Young Living products are not intended to diagnose, cure, treat or prevent any disease.) Speaking for myself, I know it has helped me with my running among other things, but for this post we are talking about running/exercising.
  4. Fitness fbj44 familybringsjoy.comYoung Living’s Fitness Oil. The INFUSED Fitness™ Inspired by Oola essential oil blend has been specially formulated to uplift, energize, and give you the inspiration to set and achieve your strength and fitness goals. I added a roller ball to this oil bottle. This way I can roll it on quickly before I leave the house to go to the gym or run outside. I’ve seen a difference when I use this oil.
  5. Have a mantra. Today’s mantra was “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Sometimes it might be “I think I can” repeated several times.  It’s good to have a mantra to recite when you feel like stopping. When I recite my mantra in my mind over and over while running, it helps me pull through times when I want to quit.

It’s difficult mentally when I remember how I used to be able to run many miles without stopping. Running is easier when you realize mind over body matters quite a bit. I was happy when I was able to run a certain path without stopping today. It’s good to celebrate small milestones along the way. I’m telling myself, if I could do it once, I can do it again. Good self talk and praise is very important to keep you going, not just today, but for many days of future physical fitness.

Over the summer, I had the opportunity to go to Young Living’s yearly convention. Something presented to me in that convention has changed my thinking about daily exercise.  A doctor, Olivier Wenker, asked:

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Yes, I was at the end of my chair wanting to know the answer:

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Ta da! Isn’t that awesome?!  So on the days I’m not running much, when the majority of my exercise is walking, I don’t feel bad. I’m doing something very good for myself. Hubby always says, “some exercise is ALWAYS BETTER than no exercise.” So even if I’m not losing weight or inches, I am REDUCING Alzheimers, progression to diabetes, cancers, hip fractures, anxiety & depression (big one for me,) arthritis pain, and premature death.

Otherwise, I love the following graphic I found on pinterest:

no matter how slow you go you are still lapping everyone on the couch

P.S.: You can read all my posts about running by clicking on the category to the left sidebar (towards the top) called “Running Brings Joy.” 😉

P.S.S.: You can purchase Young Living products through me by going to www.youngliving.org/fbj44 or click here to be directed there.

Walking & Running Bring Joy,

Oh What Do You Do In The Summertime?

This summer has been especially busy!  I was talking to the family about my upcoming blog conference {It’s called Haven, see button on sidebar.}  My son said, “you’re going to a blog conference for a blog you don’t write on anymore.”  Hmmmmm…it looks like my boy might be visiting here more than I thought.  This was my answer, “it’s because I put my family first in the summer time.”  For once there was silence from him.

It is difficult to spend time writing and editing photos during the summer while the kids are home.  As a matter of fact, my youngest is currently pouting because I asked her to please wear her headphones while she watches a show on her iPod.  It’s difficult for this ADD mom to have noise in the background while writing.  It’s not that I don’t have anything to write about.  In fact, I have so many things I would like to write about.  Sometimes that is just as overwhelming as having nothing to write about.

One reason I haven’t had time to write is because I’m running again.  Let me tell you, this is the first summer out of all of my adult years (about 10) I’ve been running I’ve actually RUN.  I usually take the summer off from running.  If you live in the south, then you understand why.  It’s SO STINKING HOT!  Problem is, I get out of shape and gain weight over the summer.  Then it’s that much harder to start running again in the fall.  I promised myself after all the effort I’ve put into losing 10 pounds I needed to bite the bullet and run this summer.  It’s the only way I will keep my weight in check.

My son goes to a training program every morning at 6:30am.  After I drop him off, I go to our local walking/jogging track.  I will admit, I only run the first mile without stopping to walk.  The next 2 miles are a run/walk combination interspersed with water breaks.  It’s still between the 80’s and 90’s early in the morning.  My kids told me recently they thought I had lost weight since the beginning of the summer.  I was surprised they noticed and said so.

friendship brings joy familybringsjoy.comSo in between taking the kids to their various camps, conferences and our vacation…I made a new friend this summer.  She and her family moved here from a major city in the west.  I’ve been trying to keep her from going stir crazy in this small little town of ours.  She’s been going through Target withdrawals.  {been there. done that.}  I remember her calling me and asking me if there was a craft store here.  Oh how I wish!  I shared with her how I buy my crafting supplies.  We have spent a lot of fun time together already.  I realized while putting this little collage together of iPhone photos, we have done a LOT of swimming together. {which is why I’m always in my swim suit in the photos.}  She brings her littles over to swim in our pool.  The first time they came over her 2 boys wouldn’t even get in the pool.  They played around the pool.  The second time they came over they stood on the steps of the pool.  Now, with their swim vests securely fastened, they swim around and do great!  It’s been wonderful to see their progress and the huge grins on their faces.  Fortunately, her sweet baby girl adores the water.  I’m pretty sure she will be swimming in no time!  I enjoy seeing my kids take her little ones under their wing and act as big sisters and brothers to them.  We have enjoyed having friends in our home again.  It’s been such a long time since we’ve had close friends.  If you’ve read my blog for a while, you might have seen me whine about not having good friends here.  So if you were one of my readers who has been praying for me, you’re prayers have been answered.  And I thank you so much for doing so.  Friends definitely bring JOY and make life happier.

One of the things I love about K is her infectious positive attitude.  She always has a smile on her face and is very complimentary.  And she does this despite the lack of sleep she receives from having a baby who isn’t sleeping through the night yet.  We share a lot of things in common.  We have fun talking about Instagram, crafts, blogging {she has a private blog}, mom stuff, books and our faith.  K likes to take photos as much as I do! 😉  I also want to tell her husband HAPPY BIRTHDAY today!

Summer is coming to a close.  Only 3 more weeks until school begins here.  7 more weeks until I take my oldest to college.  I leave to go to Atlanta for Haven Conference in a week!  Look for an introduction post to the lovely home bloggers who will be attending this conference in the next day or 2.  I can’t wait to get back to blogging on a more regular basis when the kids are back in school.  Next month I will celebrate Family Brings Joy’s 5 year anniversary!  I’m planning on some fun stuff to offer and share with you.

I truly hope your family’s summer has been filled with special times together.  Feel free to share what y’all have been doing on here in the comments section.  I love to hear what families are doing.  Thanks so much for reading Family Brings Joy.  YOU are AWESOME! :)

Oh and sweet C…thank you for motivating me to sit down and write another post.  It is a HUGE compliment for you to tell me you read my blog.  Love you.

Friends bring joy,

The Taming of the End of School Year Schedule

pixie shan familybringsjoy.comIt’s just me…with shorter hair.  Yep, I finally got up the nerve to try the pixie cut.  This is plenty short and don’t plan to go shorter.  But, I love it!  If you had as thick hair as I do you would too.  I’m grateful for people telling me I have the perfect face for short hair instead of exclaiming, “what did you do to your hair!?” lol 😉

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Her first graduation card

There’s only 23 days until the last day of school which is also graduation for our high school senior.  Her school prom is this Saturday.  We’ll be hosting 4 youth for a pre prom dinner in our home.  I’m happy to do this…even though in my mind I’m thinking of all the stuff I’d like to do in my dining room before Saturday and realistically know it’s not going to happen.  Between now and the last day of school we will also be attending graduations of our 8th grader and 4th grader too.  The schools here have 1st grade through 4th grade in one school, so when they finish 4th grade they have a “graduation” for them.  Our junior high is 7th and 8th grade so they also hold a “graduation” for those students.  This means 3 graduations for our family this year.  Geesh!  It’s not like one is not enough!  I can’t begin to list all the events we’ll be attending because I think the overwhelming monster might take up residence and I don’t have time for his visit.

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Our new red washer

Yesterday started out well, until the washer repairman shared the ill fated news {cost me $60 too} of our washer needing a new part, which would set us back a few hundred dollars.  We already had this part replaced once on this washer.  I didn’t want to sink more money into it.  This required me to shop for a new washer in hopes it could be delivered ASAP.  If I go too many days without doing laundry it begins to pile up.  Fortunately, Sears had the washer I chose on hand and they delivered it this morning.  I’m loving the red.  It has a sweet little chime when the load is finished washing.

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score!

Baseball is now over until the summer so I guess that will free up a little time.  Unfortunately, not enough but I’m trying to stay positive.

prom chaperones

chaperoning

A few weeks back we chaperoned our 2 oldest kids to church prom.  I was excited to meet my daughter’s new boyfriend.  He lives about an hour away.  He is very nice and polite.  It took a little getting used to him calling me mam.  I was grateful he decided to wear the boutonniere I made him even though it was somewhat embarrassing to my daughter.  She was a little timid with me taking formal pictures of them together. She’s regretting that decision now.  I sneaked a photo of them, yet he saw me and smiled:

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Aren’t they cute! Son is pictured to the right of her

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Boutonniere I made for her BF

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My prom dress for chaperoning

Hubby and I danced to exactly 4 slow songs.  According to our son that was 4 too many.  He told us we weren’t allowed to chaperone any more dances because we embarrass him.  Whatever!  We enjoyed watching him dance to the YMCA…which reminds me…I have video of that!  Hmmmm…maybe I should share that?  I’m such a bad mom, huh?

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Our princess

5k family

A family that runs together stays together

me at finish line

Finish line!

I’m still running.  In fact, our whole family just ran a 5K.  It was my first 5K in a couple of years.  I was grateful to finish 5th in my age group.  I haven’t been timing myself while running.  This is a strategy I use as to not sike myself out when I see how slow I’m running compared to how fast I used to run.  I am just trying to get where I run 3 miles without feeling as though I’m finishing the last 3 miles of a marathon.  I think it’s getting there.  Just a lot slower than I’d like.  Our 2 oldest kids and hubby received trophies for placing 3rd in their age groups.  I’m happy we all ran and feel it was a great family activity.

I’m very happy to report I lost 6 pounds while participating in a 21 day cleanse/detox made by Standard Process!  One habit I developed while on the cleanse I am keeping…I only drink water.  Except for the too frequent visits to the restroom I think it helps to lose weight and is much healthier than drinking diet drinks.

I’ll be teaching my second adult craft class this Saturday and my first kid’s craft class.  So happy my supplies just arrived via FedEx.  I can’t wait to share the tutorials for the crafts with you next week.

Well, glad I could catch up a bit with you.  I hope this finds you and your family doing well.  I truly mean that. :)

Enjoy the journey,

Right Frame of Mind

I’m up early this morning.  Youngest girl is going on a field trip.  She was so excited.  We pulled on her skinny jeans, slid on shoes and tied her scarf.  I should have taken a photo.  After preparing her sack lunch with a peanut butter sandwich, Cheetos, Oreos and G2, she was off.  DH took the kids to school on his way to work. Thank you hubby.

I’m going running this morning.  After scrounging up my layers of running clothes, including sliding on my compression socks and shoes, I decided to watch an inspirational video to get me in the right frame of mind.  This one was perfect.  I felt compelled to share it with you, my lovely readers today.

Doesn’t that put everything in perspective?
I think so.
Have a beautiful Friday my friends.

Sincerely,

Music For Your Love

Welcome back to the 4th day of the Anniversary Gifts Made With Love series.

If you are just joining us, click here to see what this is all about.

2 of the 8 anniversary gifts I made for my husband were CD’s.

Both discs have 18 songs for 18 years.

One disc has 18 love songs that are meaningful to us.

The other disc has 18 of my favorite running songs.

My husband had mentioned he needed some new running music to listen to.  Maybe your husband needs songs for his commute to work, fishing, working out, or whatever hobby he’s into.  This is the perfect gift!
Day 2: Couples Poster
Day 3: Framed With Love
Day 5: Last 3 Gifts

Simple but meaningful,