Special Time in Marriage Brings Joy

Caution: The subject matter in this post is for parents. {To my kids, if by chance you actually wanted to read my blog, you might not want to read this post}  I like to keep Family Brings Joy rated G to PG.  I would rate this one PG.  If for some reason you left this page on your computer and your kids saw it, I don’t think they would completely understand {it’s pretty ambiguous} and in return might ask questions.  Overall, I think parents will understand more so than kids.

I hope you and your spouse are spending special time together.  Special time brings closeness and unity to the marriage and ultimately the family.  The husband and wife, as a couple, are the barometer of the family.  In my last post I showed you a wooden cut out that says “HappyWifeHappyLife.”  Studies have shown husbands are usually happy if their wives are happy.  I think the same is true for the children.  If the kids see a Mom and Dad who love each other, they feel safe and secure.  {Doesn’t mean they still won’t behave like children}

Needless to say, a happy and healthy marriage takes effort.  If we all went back to the first year of our marriage we would never foresee a time where we didn’t make time {special time} for one another.  However, as life unfolds and children are added, sometimes it happens.

Here are a few tips:

  • Schedule special times.  I know it sounds super romantic, NOT, but let’s face it, if you don’t; the perfect time may never come.
  • Be spontaneous.  If your parents or someone offers to take your kids to the movie or watch them, let them.  Ta da, this is your time, sieze the moment.  Stay home and share special time together.
  • Put the kids to bed early.  This is where a lot of parents could use some coaching.  1.) KIDS NEED LOTS OF SLEEP!  2.) PARENTS NEED TIME TOGETHER WITHOUT THE KIDS EACH DAY       3.) Lock your bedroom door 😉
  • Bring on the MUSIC.  Burn you a mix/playlist of “special music for special times.”  Certain music can help set the mood and be your own soundtrack for wonderful memories.

The music part is what I want to emphasize in this post.  If you don’t have a CD player or iPod player in your bedroom, invest in one.  I am going to share with you some albums I believe are very appropriate for playing during these special times with your spouse.  Now, I need to mention, this is not the kind of music you would want your children listening to.  Don’t get me wrong, it doesn’t have explicit language.  You will realize what I am referring to when you listen to it.  Some of it is played on the radio or used to be played on the radio.  The lyrics lend itself to being what special time is all about.  I say this and laugh because I guess most secular music played on the radio can be perceived in this manner.  I need to stop trying to explain it and let you listen and hear for your self.  If you don’t like it, no worries…find something you both like and use it.  I can testify that it will bring romance and deepen your special times with one another.

I recommend the following:



Some posts are worth re-posting.  This post was originally posted on August 19, 2011.  I had wonderful feedback from many {not necessarily here on my blog} that it was helpful.  Sometimes we need reminders.

Make your marriage a priority,


  1. Shan,
    Wonderful post! It is so important to make marriage a priority in this way, but you’re right, it can be a challenge for sure. Thanks for the excellent reminder! Keep up your great writing. 🙂
    Susan recently posted..Uncle Pete’s Frozen Corn

  2. Love how you wrote this! We have a 1 year old. I get how quickly time can get away from you! Thanks for the tips!

    Warmest regards,
    Pardon My Poppet ~ Pip Squeaks from the Mummy-verse!
    Joy recently posted..Frenzied Friday – Grandma’s in the House!

    • Joy, what an awesome name you have, my friend. 😀 You are welcome and thank YOU for the sweet feedback. I remember what it was like having a 1 year old. They aren’t too young to be going to be around 7pm in my opinion. Glad you came by…oh…and by the way, thank you for all your nice tweets! Yes, I notice. 😉


  1. […] If possible, try not to have the following things in your bedroom: work items, toys, laundry, hobby stuff…these all take away from the Oasis theme.  You want your room to be a place for you and your spouse to relax and enjoy.  If you’re not sleeping, then you want to be focusing on each other in the room, no distractions.  You can read my thoughts about the importance of Special Time HERE. […]

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