Old People Music

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My Sister, Mom, Brother and I

This last weekend was heavenly. Many of my family members, including both sets of parents came to visit us this weekend.  I can’t begin to explain the joy it brought me to have everyone here. I would find myself smiling as laughter wafted through the house.

The main reason which brought family in town was Alice…the one act play derived from Alice in Wonderland.  My youngest daughter has embraced my thespian side. She was cast as the Dormouse in this school play.

Daughter as Dormouse in Alice FamilyBringsJoy.com

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Son with cake familybringsjoy.comHowever, Saturday happened to be my Mom’s Birthday!  We used this opportunity to hold a party of sorts for both her and my Son who turned 17 last week.  It was casual. We had BBQ, cake and watched both the Texas Rangers & Alabama (my Mom went to Alabama for 2 years) games.

Funny story

My Daughter had to leave the party early Saturday to prepare for the play.  She didn’t see the gifts I bought for her Grandmother.  Here’s a conversation I had with my Daughter on the way home from school yesterday:

Me: “I received a text from Grandmother today.  She said she is loving her new Taylor Swift CD.”

Her: “You gave her a Taylor Swift CD?”

Me: “Yes, 1989.”

Her: “Why?”

Me: “She likes Taylor Swift.  I found out since she has been visiting she didn’t have a copy, so I thought it would be the perfect gift! Why do you sound surprised?”

Her: “Because, I thought she liked old people music.”

Mom Opening 1989 by Taylor Swift familybringsjoy.comWe then had a discussion about how my mom likes all kinds of music.  It was a good teaching opportunity for me to explain how music isn’t generational. Personally, I really love it when an album can be listened and enjoyed by several generations.  I believe Taylor Swift’s 1989 does just that.  I believe the only other CD I have gifted as much as 1989 would be Mindy Gledhill’s Winter Moon & Anchor albums.

Despite the couple of bad words in Taylor’s 1989, it is a remarkable album with up tempo and slow songs for every kind of mood.  Plus, every time I hear about the amount of money she gives to someone in need, I don’t mind spending the money on her album.  She earned every penny with her excellent lyrics. I’m happy to support an artist who appears to be a genuine person in spite of her fame.  Keep up the good work Taylor!  Our family is enjoying your music. :)

wrapped gifts for my mom familybringsjoy.com

Mirror, Mirror on the wall, I am my Mother after all.

Oh blog, how I’ve missed you.

Music Brings Joy,

I’ts My Birthday & I’ll Cry If I Want To

I’ve been on this earth now for 45 years.  It’s surreal.  I’m kind of having a hard time with that today.

It’s not really because I’m closer to 50 than 40.  It’s not the age thing.  It’s the lack of celebrating thing.  I like Birthdays.  I like to make birthdays special for the people around me, because it’s not supposed to be just an ordinary day.  It’s the day you came into this world.

When I was a kid, my parents held birthday parties for me.  I got a special cake, invited my friends, opened gifts.  As I got older, we would always at least have a family party of some kind, even if it was going out to eat at a restaurant.

As an adult, my birthdays, a lot of times, are just like any other normal day…especially if they are on a week day like today.  This morning my Son remembered and said Happy Birthday first thing when he saw me.  That was pretty special, as he didn’t really say Happy Mother’s Day on Mother’s Day.  I’ll cut him some slack since he just had broken his arm and wasn’t feeling well.  My youngest Daughter did her normal, I’m not a morning person yelling at me this morning before school.  She was actually a little stinker.  Right as she got out of the car for school she says, “Oh and happy birthday,” with a snarky tone to her voice.  Lovely.

No balloons or banners for Shannon. Nope.  Hubby was on call last night and not home.

For some reason there is tradition that we don’t open gifts until dinner time.  Well, I might have to break tradition today and go ahead and open the gift my mom sent, alone. Me. Party of one.

I guess I’ve learned I haven’t made good enough friends here to invite me to go have lunch for my birthday.  That stings.  I could have asked someone, but things have been a little crazy in our life.  I will have to explain about that later.

So I sit at the computer soaking up every one of the birthday wishes I have received on Facebook.  Thank goodness for Facebook on Birthdays.  It’s really the only way people would know my birthday.

A few years ago one of my friends surprised me with a huge banner in the front of our yard that her kids & she made.  That was super awesome! (Thanks again for that K!)

1919365_1248819140266_2035236_nOne year I thought to myself, “I’m going to throw myself a birthday party.”  And I did.  I was turning 36.  We were about to move from Tyler, TX to OK. It was kind of a goodbye/birthday party.  I decided to make it an 80’s themed party.  It was a total blast!  One of the best birthday parties I’ve ever thrown.  This morning on my walk around the neighborhood I decided when I turn 50, in 5 years I’m going to throw myself another birthday party.  It’s going to be big and hopefully make up for all the lonely & uncelebrated birthdays in between my 36th birthday party and my 50th birthday party.

I’m going to tell you a secret…I’ve always hoped someone would throw me a surprise party. To me, the surprise party is the ultimate in knowing you have friends and they care about you.  I’ve given up hope that is going to happen.

I ran into one friend while I was out walking this morning and a different friend called me. Neither one of them wished me a happy birthday.  Guess they haven’t been on Facebook.

It feels like I’m not special enough to celebrate.

This whole post feels awful.  I’m just being a sulking, selfish, crabby pants.  But this is how I feel.  And this is my blog…and I can whine if I want to. Guess I’m hoping it will make me feel better to get it out, but as I read back over it, I feel like someone will judge me and think bad of me.  I don’t think too many people read my blog anymore so it won’t matter.

Connecting with people is important.  Celebrating people is important.  Why do birthdays have to be this way for adults?  I’ve heard people say most of my life, “birthdays aren’t fun anymore when you’re an adult.”   I’ve also heard, “Birthdays are for children.”  But why is that?  Why can’t we celebrate we’ve lived as long as we have?  Why wish any adult a Happy Birthday, then, if it’s supposed to suck?

And one more thing.  Have your kids make an effort for your spouses birthday.  I remember my Dad taking us to the store and having us pick out a gift and card for my Mom for her birthday.  It truly isn’t the actual gift that matters, it’s the thought behind it…seriously, I’m not trying to be cliche. The act of DOING something for someone you care about.  It’s a way to show you care about that person and think they are special.

Audio Books Rock

I have a confession to make.

I’m an audio book junkie.

Yep, that’s all.

I’m still alive.

Teaching Your Children How to be Financially Successful

Teaching Your Children How to be Financially Successful familybringsjoy.comI came across a very intriguing post recently.  So much so that I feel it important to share on my blog today.  The post is titled Will Your Child be Rich or Poor? 15 Poverty Habits Parents Teach Their Children.  The title alone definitely peaked my interest.  I immediately wanted to find out if I am teaching my children poverty habits.  I opened to find the following:

Screenshot from RichHabits.net

Screenshot from RichHabits.net

Don’t you find this fascinating?  Already I have learned some very helpful information as a parent.  Tom Corley, the author and professional of Rich Habits who wrote this post continues with the following helpful advice for parents:

Wealthy Habits

Screenshot from RichHabits.net

I think I’ve found a new blog to follow daily.  Thank you Tom for sharing your study with us so we can know what habits to teach our children to be financially successful.  Go read the rest of this post by clicking here.  It’s definitely worth your time to read.

Blogs Bring Joy,

Excellent Phone Apps for Family History

I am super excited to share with you an excellent presentation on phone apps for doing your family history!

One of my friends, Crystal Beutler, taught a class at RootsTech a few weekends ago called Family History on the Go.  Fortunately for us, they recorded the class and have shared it online for FREE.  I love FREE!  Crystal co-taught the class with creative app developer Rhonna Farrer.  I use her app Rhonna Designs to create fun Instagrams with quotes and designs.  If you go into my Instagram feed(@familybringsjoy) you will see what I am referring to.

Family History is the perfect activity during snow days like today!  It’s Saturday, so the kids wouldn’t normally have school, but the roads have iced over.  It’s not too safe for us to be going anywhere.  I’m excited to show my kids what I learned.  I believe this class completely revolutionized my way of doing Family History.  Genealogy can bring family unity like nothing else.

Learning brings joy,

Happy Families

I’m really enjoying this new video series titled “Happy Families.”  It’s refreshing to see what other happy families do.  What makes them happy?

I thought you might like it as well! :)

Blessings to you,