Linky Party Etiquette

Since my announcement and involvement in the Roomspiration Blog Hop & Link Party, some readers have wanted to know more about what a Link Party is.

What is a linky or link party?

A link party is a platform to share ideas about a particular topic.  You can add your topic relevant post to the party.  Other party goers and blog followers can click on your post.  This is a great way to network with other bloggers and give exposure for your blog.  Other names for a Linky Party are: Blog Hop, Blog Carnival and Meme.

Are there certain rules or etiquette for a linky party?

I believe so.  Just as etiquette is encouraged in real life, I feel it is just as important online.  However, it really depends on the values of the person on whether they feel it is necessary.  There aren’t any hard and fast rules when it comes to blogging ETIQUETTE where a law enforcer gives you a ticket if you violate those rules.

On the other hand, if you want to network and make friends, if you want to be polite, if you want to grow your blog, then etiquette is highly recommended.

Shan’s Blog Etiquette

  1. Please read & abide by the host’s link party rules or guidelines.  Usually the host or blog of the link party will list certain rules in order to participate in the linky party.
  2. Link to the exact post.  Please don’t link back to your blog url or website name.
  3. Please don’t join the party {link up} if you have no intention of placing a link, website button or link party button {which includes a link to the host party’s post} on your post.
  4. Please visit and comment on some of the other blogs who have linked up to the party you are participating in.  {They will appreciate the feedback}  If you don’t think you have the time to do this, then please don’t join the party.
  5. If you host your own link party, please comment or leave an email for the participants who have linked up.
  6. If you advertise you are holding a link party on a certain day, please don’t open the party the night before.

Personally, I highly value etiquette because it is part of practicing consideration.  I have learned by way of experience this week how much TIME and EFFORT goes into hosting a link party.  I will look at link parties in a whole new light now.  It should be a requirement for all bloggers to host their own link party at some point in time, so they can understand what I’m talking about.  I have a saying I repeat to my children over and over, “Where much is given, much is required.”  The same holds true here.  If you want to give your blog exposure and gain new readers or followers, you have to put in the effort.  It doesn’t come easily.

I wanted to re-quote what I wrote on the day of my Link Party {via Roomspiration}

I love “partying” with all you wonderful & creative peeps…lol. Today is a very special day for my blog. {tears of JOY} A milestone I will never forget. I so appreciate you being a part of it. Thank you so much. Today you’ve made another dream come true. I hope we can continue to uplift and inspire one another. The internet medium CAN be used for good and we have proved that here today. Thank you…gratitude abounds!

It was a wonderful day!  I sincerely hope many of the visitors I received on Wednesday will join Family Brings Joy’s readership on a journey of creating unity and joy in our families.  If you did visit on Wednesday, WELCOME BACK! 😀

I have written previously about practicing etiquette in real life.  You can read that post by clicking here.

Other highly recommended reading on the topic of Linky Parties: (Click on the title to go there)

Linky Party Like a Dinner Party? by Crafterminds

Ettiquette in Sending Invites to Your Linky Party by Homemaker on a Dime

How to Link Up your Project to a Linky Party {Tutorial} by Beneath My Heart

Building Your Blog: Linky Parties by It’s a Blog Party

Blogs bring joy,

Treasure-Trove Thursday {Etiquette}

I have noticed many writings in every venue on the subject of etiquette.  I know the reason why…because there is an extreme LACK of it.

Not too long ago, my youngest came home from school giving me a ‘run down’ on a friend’s birthday party.  I told her it sounded like fun and asked her what day the party would be held.  She preceded to tell me it would be held later that day.  I blurted out quickly how that was not a lot of notice, but we should go get a gift.  “I was not invited,” she replies.  Fortunately she did not seem very sad.  However, I was.  Sad because etiquette was not involved.

I was taught from a very early age by my parents and Girl Scout Leaders that you should not talk about a party to people who are not invited to the party.  It made sense.  It only takes one case of this happening to you to understand why.  It hurts to be left out.  As humans we have an innate desire to belong.  We don’t want to feel left out.  Therefore, if you don’t know about it, then you won’t feel left out.  It is also important to note, it is not proper etiquette to talk about a party around those who did not attend.  I can not stand when I am in a conversation with several people and they proceed to say,  “remember when we did___________? {insert activity}  That was so funny when _______ did ________.” {laughter etc.}  Next thing you know it is like I’m not there.  I might as well be invisible listening to them talk about all this fun they had together.  To me, this is incredibly rude.

I believe another major etiquette faux pas being under taught is the subject of talking on cell phone or texting at inappropriate times.  This also stems from earlier etiquette training as well.  I was taught it is not proper to talk on the phone to another friend in the presence of another friend or guest.  For example, if I had a friend over to spend the night, I wouldn’t pick up the phone {back then phones had cords and were hooked to the wall} and call another friend.  I think of it this way, if I were at a friends house, I wouldn’t want them to spend time talking to another friend while I was there.  As a matter of fact, many times I gauge doing things to others on how I would feel if someone did that to me.  {This includes gossip.}  So here we are in modern day times where everyone has a cell phone with them.  Fortunately, many people of my generation will continue to respect not texting or “shooting the breeze” with someone while speaking with me.  I really appreciate that.  If I’m engaging in a conversation with someone and my phone rings {either signaling a text message or actual phone call}, I will politely look to see who it is and silence it.  I make a mental note to call or text them back when I am alone.  However, children who have cell phones don’t seem to understand this form of etiquette.  I’m not sure if they are being taught phone manners and they are refusing to follow them or if they have not been taught at all.  Honestly, I have a feeling it is the latter.  The majority of my 7 year old’s friends received a cell phone as a Christmas gift this year.  This has wreaked havoc in our family.  My daughter is insisting on her having one as well.  I’m getting side tracked, though.  This is a whole different story and post.  I can’t tell you how many times we have invited a friend of my daughter to go somewhere with us or spend the night and the friend is on her phone talking to another girl.  To be quite honest, this is infuriating to me.  It is, again, saying to the person you are currently with that they don’t matter.  Ouch!  That hurts!

Personally, I treasure etiquette.  We teach it in our home and in our family.  I wish many others did as well.

There are many other forms of etiquette or manners I see being ignored in this modern day society.  Is there one that comes to mind as you read this post?  What other forms of etiquette do you feel need to be re-taught or learned today?  How do you feel about these social rules of conduct I have mentioned?  Am I being extra sensitive?  Do you teach good manners at your home?  I am interested in hearing your thoughts on this subject.

“Good manners will open doors that the best education cannot.”

Clarence Thomas, US Administrator & Lawyer


May the code live on,