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  1. Linda from the Edge of Nowhere
    January 3, 2012

    I need more info like, how often are you going to pay for some of those things? ? ? $17/day is a little steep. I’m looking forward to the monthly report.

    • Shan
      January 5, 2012

      Linda, the system is meant to run daily. At night we record in my planner how much money they made for the day. I think J overdid it the first day. He has made around $2 each day since so far. My housekeeper who came once a week quit last month. Believe me, paying them is much cheaper than paying my housekeeper. Besides, I would much rather get them helping out around the house. I am tired of my kids whining and being idle. It is nice to not have to harp at them all the time. They know what to expect and hopefully it will work for a while. I understand this may not be ideal for everyone. I’m just sharing what I’m doing. Anyone could tweak it to fit their household if they find the idea enticing.

  2. Shasta Farrar
    January 3, 2012

    OK, that might actually work in my house BUT the child that needs to do chores is a teenager. Maybe I’ll “pay’ him with computer time or number of texts he can send each day/week. I’d go broke with the money thing…besides, he needs the computer and texting to maintain his social life, lol.
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    • Shan
      January 5, 2012

      Shasta, I completely understand your point of view. My oldest is 16. Like I mentioned above to Linda. The $17 day is not an ordinary day. It was the first day of the system and the first day back to school. My 13 year old didn’t have any homework and was excited at the prospect of making money. I think you could definitely use other forms of payment if you think it will motivate them. Every family is different. Thank you for your support. :)

    • Chris
      February 18, 2012

      Yes, with older children there are some days the money can appear to be a little steep, but what we have done is continue to take the Dave Ramsey teaching even further to put some financial responsibility back on them for items that parents sometimes purchase for their children. For example our children know our community carnival comes up in August and we buy a very small amount of ride tickets and they know the rest of the responsiblity is theirs.

  3. Amy
    January 3, 2012

    I love this idea, but we do it slightly differently. We have gotten away from paying them “commission” and probably need to get back to that… but we have a few daily chores that must be done without pay. This teaches them that there are certain responsibilities that everyone must do to maintain a household. In exchange for “room & board”, they must complete certain responsibilities each day – like picking up after themselves, doing homework, hanging up coats, putting shoes away, etc. Then, we have three daily chores that rotate between the 3 kids – dinner duty (set & clean up), dishwasher (unload & load) and laundry. They don’t get paid for those responsibilities. The actual house cleaning (like toilets, vacuuming, etc.) were paid jobs. Right now, we are paying someone to clean our house (due to health problems), so we took away the commission for cleaning in order to pay a professional. If/when we stop paying someone else, we’ll probably go back to a commission system. Thanks for your ideas – I love the magnet chart!!
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    • Shan
      January 5, 2012

      Amy, you are wonderfully organized and systematic about managing your family’s chores. I love what you shared. I mentioned to Linda above that our weekly housekeeper quit last month. Therefore, the commission to my children is definitely cheaper than paying her. My kids have been spoiled because of our housekeeper. It might have been a blessing in disguise for her to quit. A family needs to work together and help take responsibility of their spaces and possessions. Too much idle and entertainment time has turned my kids brains to mush. This magnet board is to help give them a little ‘kick in the rear’ without me having to harp on them all the time. Thank you so much for following and joining the Family Brings Joy readership. I’m excited to read your blog and enjoy your awesomeness at organizing! :)

  4. Dana
    January 3, 2012

    Your board turned out really nice! You’re quite crafty with your make-overs! We’ve never done a monetary system as we want the kids to realize that some things in life must be done without compensation. We try to teach that a good feeling inside for doing the mundane is actually a reward. Hopefully they’ll enjoy the word ‘service’ someday. For now they just roll their eyes — ha! Your plan correlates with some of the suggestions by Richard & Linda Eyres in their parenting articles.

    • Shan
      January 5, 2012

      Dana, I absolutely adore Richard & Linda Eyre. I listen to their show on BYU Radio and really enjoyed seeing Linda and her daughter speak at Time Out for Women last year.

      We, too, have taught for years that many things in life must be done without compensation and will continue to do so. Unfortunately, it just hasn’t sunk into their brains, yet. I hope over time they will understand and gain a testimony of doing acts of service without payment or reward. If my kids just rolled their eyes when I asked them to do something I wouldn’t have to motivate them using a chore system. I can handle the eye rolling. It’s the blatant, “I will later” or “I don’t want to” or literally “But I didn’t make that mess!” The talking back and whining was out of control.

      I believe y’all are doing a fabulous job of teaching service to your kids by example. Y’all are the epitome of service and I admire you so much for that.

  5. Mandy
    January 5, 2012

    Hi Shan,
    What a great idea! I love this!!! I forwarded to my daughter who is always looking for a way to be consistent with her boys doing chores. My kids are all grown up…but maybe I could do it for my husband and pay him a different way :-). I bet things would get done pretty fast around here!!!!

    I’d love it if you shared this at a party that I have going on at Project Queen.
    http://projectqueen.org/welcome-to-link-party-15-turning-the-daunting-into-the-do-able

    I’m your newest follower.
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    • Shan
      January 5, 2012

      I always LOVE positive feedback, Mandy! I am very happy to have you as a new follower and am honored to be invited to participate in your party. I’ll see you there! :)

  6. Melissa
    January 7, 2012

    Hi, I LOVE this idea! My kids are 11 (twins) and 4. They can all participate in this chore system – I am implementing today! Did you cut some of the magnets into circles to match the circle chores or just adhere them to the magnet squares? I know a few chores are squares. Thanks for sharing this great idea!

  7. Mandy
    January 9, 2012

    Hi Shan, I’ll be featuring your chore system tomorrow night at Project Queen. I love your system and thank you so much for linking it to my link party!

    Mandy
    PS I hope that you don’t mind that I copied a a different picture than the one you linked with. If so, please let me know.
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  8. Dana
    February 21, 2012

    What does it mean when your kids give you their menu plan?
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  9. Joann
    February 27, 2012

    Just found your blog for the first time. What a delightful entry. Thanks so much for a great idea, but mostly for your courage to be transparent about how hard it can be to be consistent about things. I struggle with this too and it is always an encouragement to know I’m in great company. As mamas we try hard to do so many things ‘right’. But, ultimately it is our humanness that endears us to one another and to our families. The journey, not perfection, is the real prize. I will be exploring more.
    Blessings!

  10. laura
    March 4, 2012

    Shan,
    Did you know you can write over the sharpie marker with a dry erase one and then wipe it off? The sharpie comes clean with the dry erase, I did this alot when I was a special ed assistant before I became a SAHM

  11. Heather
    March 6, 2012

    As a former teacher, I can tell you first hand that alcohol takes permanent marker off of white boards (hair spray works too, but makes it a little sticky…water takes the hairspray off). :)

  12. Trina
    May 24, 2012

    One question: what is your “meal plan” in reference to?

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